I am giddy. In 48 hours we will have four generations of Sanfords together in Oregon. We’re coming from Pittsburgh and Atlanta, Los Angeles and Seattle, St. Paul and Tennessee. The matriarch of our family will be with us and at 91, that’s something special. Two of her childhood friends live in Salem and Portland will also be joining the family.
Technically, they are family too because their mother and my grandmother are married into the same family, but that doesn’t really matter. What matters is that they have STORIES! It’s the genealogist mother lode!
Preparing for the family reunion is more than just getting everyone there and lining up the picnic and BBQ locations. It’s more than just chatting up everyone to bring photos and stories. Preparing for the family reunion is about preparing myself to ask the questions I may never get to ask again. It sounds morbid to think about but really the last time this group was together as a group was 1966 and 35 years later, not all of us are going to be there this weekend.
And I want the stories. I want the memories that only my cousin Susan, named for my Aunt Susan has about her mother and my grandfather. I want the stories my cousin Eddie has about his sister Linda. I want the stories of my cousin Malcom whom I’ve never met! And I want the stories my Aunt Susie has about her father that someone else may ask but I have never even thought about.
So I have been preparing my mind to be open to the conversations taking place and to having a tape recorder and camera ready at all times. I am also preparing myself to not get all the stories. To know that when I drive home on Sunday, some of the stories will have been shared and I will have missed them.
I have a plan, though, to get as many as I can:
1. I have my research plan for the reunion. What can these people tell me that only these people know? Mostly these are ‘what was it like…? questions so that my dates and facts start to have context and color. But also because in the telling small details come out that link one fact to another.
2. I have small note cards for everyone to write one memory about my grandfather, Louis Todd Sanford. These will go in his notebook* and act as a sort of eulogy for him that he never got. Since some of the cousins coming never knew my grandfather, I will ask them to write a memory of their grandfather, my grandfather’s brother.
3. I have my secret weapon: my husband, who does not like crowds but takes amazing candid photographs. He will be my photographer freeing me up to talk and listen.
4. I am bringing all my notebooks and a stack of three-hole punched paper so other people can add what they know and to add their list of questions.
5. I am bringing my parents photo albums in the hope that someone can identify at least some of the un-named people. NOTE TO YOU ALL: Label your photos. Everyone of them.
6. I am bringing my iPad and will enter into my Ancestry account birth dates, marriage dates and other facts from the people who are there. The current generation matters as much as those who have gone before.
7. I am going with an explorer’s mind: I will discover what I discover and I will discover more if I am looking for it.
I am excited and a little nervous. I want to be present for the reunion, too. I can get obsessed with chasing after my questions and I am genuinely interested in and care for the living that are there. Sometimes, though, I need to be poked into remembering that. Besides, this will be an opportunity to learn about my generation of cousins that someone in the future will want to know. And that is as much my responsibility to document as is documenting something I find about Seth Palmer Kingsley in the 17th Century.
Portland or Bust.
* I keep a notebook on each family member or if the information is scant, each family unit. In it are copies of documents, photos, research plans, census records, maps, etc. As I find information, it goes into their binder. If the information is in an historical book or record, I will reference the book or record in a bibliography in the binder. I love my binders.
























